What Do You See When You Look In The Mirror?

Does the interior match the exterior?

It was a hot Summer day and I was meeting my friend at her apartment pool for a quick visit. She had told me a friend of hers would be with her, a friend that I hadn’t met before. When I arrived I noticed my friend right away, sitting in the shade with her friend. As I approached she smiled and introduced me to her friend Natasha. Natasha was fully covered up. I couldn’t help but notice that she was overweight, very overweight. She was probably over 300 lbs. I could see that she was very self-conscious about it her weight. I looked in her eyes and saw beautiful shy blue eyes framed by long lashes.

The visit was brief and her friend Natasha (not her real name) barely said a word. My friend was her usual sunny self. She is a beautiful lady and she has the unique gift of loving people and looking deeper than skin deep. As I left I noticed people mostly young 20 somethings walking around in their summer skin and summer suits. I felt sorry for Natasha. Not because she was overweight, but because she was so obviously unhappy with her self.

It was perhaps a year later before I would by chance meet Natasha again. Once again she was with my friend, however, I didn’t recognize her. Natasha had lost an enormous amount of weight and had completely changed her body. She had been body building for several months, as well as dieting. I honestly did not recognize her. The transformation was so dramatic. Gone were the baggy clothes and were replaced with a skin-tight dress and stiletto hills. Her personality was less shy, but still, something seemed very off. Like she was in someone else’s skin. Later my friend would share with me just how much Natasha had changed, and not in a good way. She was actively pursuing a married man (who rejected her advances!) She had also had a string of one night stands. It was then that I knew what seemed off to me, she had what I can only describe as desperation in her eyes. All the hard work she had done for her exterior didn’t match the interior. Inside she saw herself as a rejected, fat girl. She was desperate to be loved and didn’t know how to value herself.

I share this story because unless a person is in a relationship with our Heavenly Father they really can not see their self as He does. He sees us as precious sons and daughters. He looks at the inner man that is being conformed to the image of His Son Jesus.


1 Peter 3:3-4 New King James Version (NKJV)
Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.


Proverbs 31:30 English Standard Version (ESV)
30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

2 Corinthians 4:16 English Standard Version (ESV)
16 So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self, is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day.

What do you see when you look in the mirror? Are your eyes blinded by what the world values? If so you will miss what the Lord values. What He values is worth more then anything in the world. If you struggled with rejection before, no amount of external change will fix you. Only the love of the Father and a relationship with His Son Jesus can “fix” you. There are so many hurting broken people all around us. Jesus came to heal the broken heart. The ministry the Lord has placed Troy and I in is to specifically minister to the broken of heart. If your heart is fractured you will struggle to love your self as well as loving others. If you are hurting inside there is hope. Sometimes we can’t fix ourselves, we need others to stand with us and pray. Troy spoke about this in a recent sermon called : Love your neighbor as yourself.

We are here for you, if you feel as if your heart has been broken and you need prayer or perhaps deeper inner healing please reach out to us. We are here to serve. God Bless!

Ann Rockers

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